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How not to take things personally

Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.


There are many things that can inspire. As a founder and artist, for me it doesn't always have to be a painting or a sculpture or some design. That is why I like the TED-talks so much. Ideas worth spreading is their motto.

As an artist I am quite in the open when it comes to opinions from others. As an artist I try to keep my work as close to myself as possible without being to autobiographic. And that can make me quite insecure sometimes. To be honest. The book project does also. Although the reviews are great and I am proud of what we made, the book selling could be better. Like what Frederik mentions in this talk; we have 50.000 thoughts per day and only 10.000 are positive thoughts... And in moments of 'crisis' mine are even less. Why? I take things to personally!! It is because of everything Frederik mentions in this TED-talk.

In the earlier days some chefs, didn't care that much about criticism. There was a big wall between the kitchen and the guests he was cooking for. When a guest had a complain the restaurant had to solve the problem. But the chefs of today are there in the open. Jeroen Achtien serves the first dish of the evening himself, so he can check what kind of guest he has that night. And all of his kitchen staff serve one or more dishes during the evening. jeroen explains you why in the book. But being in the open, means also you have to handle the direct critics from your audience. Positive and supporting negative ones. That can become a little scary sometimes and effect you in a way that you are asking yourself; why did I do this again??? you might have taken things a little too personal.

I hope this talk will help you a little to keep enjoying that what you love to do best!



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